Job was hurting deeply because he had experienced the most terrifying disappointments in his life. He was the most godliest man who walked the face of the earth at the time and yet, I’m sure he was like us and prone to disappointment.
He had hopes and expectations for his children, yet every last one of his ten children were suddenly killed by a great wind.
That still happens today when whole families are wiped out by a tornado or hurricane.
Job was a very rich man. We don’t think of farmers or ranchers today as being rich but back in Job’s day, a man’s wealth was measured by how many sheep, camels, oxen, and animals he had. He was considered to be the greatest man in all the east.
Hurting from Disappointments
1. We Have Dreams for Our Children
When we hold that tiny little baby in our arms, we can’t help to think of the kind of a person our child will become when they grow up. We have hopes and dreams for each of our children.
Our children are one of the ways that we can be hurt from disappointments.
Once that new baby stirs within our womb (or heart, if you have adopted) we have hopes and dreams coming alive in our heart.
- I miscarried a few times and those hopes and dreams were dashed.
- My grandmother lost her baby when he was two days old. I can’t even start to imagine how disappointed she was. So grieved, yet it was something you didn’t talk about in the early 1900’s.
- My husband once had a boss who lost his 12 year old son in a fatal car accident. The parents must still hold memories of their son even though they are aging. The pain isn’t as severe as it once was but it must still hurt deeply.
- Then many of us have children who grow up and make devastating choices once they leave home. This is the ultimate disappointment for a mother. Are you that mother?
2. Hurting from Relational Disappointments
Women are relational people.
One of the deepest hurts a woman can have is when her marriage disintegrates. I do not believe God wants us to get divorced but I have some very special friends who are walking this road. If you are one, I hope there is something encouraging here for you today.
Sometimes as women, we are hurt by a friendship where there are misunderstandings or malicious words exchanged.
I had a close friendship once that fell apart because of past things my friend was still dealing with. She was struggling and we were both young. I remember her telling me that she needed an older woman and knew that I wasn’t able to fill that spot at the time. Just keep in mind that sometimes, like with this friendship, you aren’t to blame and neither is your friend. There could be issues beyond what either of you are able to cope with.
Keep reading because there is HOPE!!
3. Hurting from Material Disappointments
Another way that we can hurt is from the loss of material things, like Job. There can be loss of a job or a devastating event.
Something costly can happen that saps every single bit of your finances.
Or as women, we can hope for new carpet, sofa, a beautiful flower garden and end up not having the money and be very disappointed. I’m sure many of you know exactly what I mean.
4. Hope and Healing from Disappointments
Your life may be very different than the examples I have shared. We all have stories that make up our experiences, our hopes and expectations.
What we do with our ‘Job’ experiences will make all the difference in the world.
There are basically two choices that people make when life brings disappointments:
- The choice to respond to the situation in her life with bitterness.
- The choice to respond with praise to God despite the circumstances that have brought hurt and loss. This choice brings hope and healing.
I have determined to live my days for the glory of God. Like you, I have circumstances that I could chose to respond with bitterness. I have chosen not to.
I am going to respond with:
- Praise and thankfulness to God
- Collect some Bible verses to meditate on when situations or my thoughts spiral in my life.
I have seen women who are bitter from the things that have happened in their life and those that have had terrible devastation but are joyful and happy.
Which woman will you determine to be?
Week Three Readings:
Here we go with some verses to encourage you.
I am going to write them out on cute Sticky Notes and put them where I will see them again.
My thoughts can go wild with crazy imaginations on how bad I am at something or how big a failure I am as a mother. Whether that is true or not isn’t the thing that matters.
I am a filthy redeemed rag and it is only by Jesus abiding in me that I have my worth. I am NOT awesome, talented, capable, successful, (etc.) outside of Jesus Christ. All that I am is because of Jesus.
- Job 13 (KJV) You might want to read my Study Notes – When “Slaying Times” Happen to a Believer” because I think you might find this very helpful.
- “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” ~1 Peter 5:7~
- “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” ~1 Corininthians 10:5~
- “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.” ~Romans 15:13~
- “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.” ~Psalm 100:4~
I am only going to give five references today since I really hope you take the time to write them out on Sticky Notes.
Life isn’t easy and most of us face something devastating sometime during life. Look to Jesus and allow Him to abide in you, and you in Him.
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