You love your husband and so you are all about doing special things for your him. Maybe you are like me and the fire in your husband died through the years because of all the mistakes you made once you had children. That’s me too!!
As the children added to our home and the responsibilities were collected onto my plate, I was preoccupied with things that I thought were important because I had lost focus with who came first in my marriage, next to God.
Yes, my home was neat and tidy (outside of the toys and schoolbooks scattered through the house from 6am until bedtime) and it was even relatively clean. You may be overwhelmed with clutter and dishes and a home that is sadly neglected. Neither is better.
So let’s talk about those special things you do for your husband.
You do try to do special things, right?
I hope so. If not. No worries. You can get some ideas here!
There was a point that I realized that I wasn’t doing things to make my husband feel wanted, loved, and respected.
NOW is always a good time to start.
1. Special Things You Can Do For Your Husband
You may have things to add to this list as you might find this list is wanting. Go add. I’d love to see what you have to share in the comments.
Breakfast!! Most men love to eat. What does he love for breakfast? My husband loves eggs any way possible. So eggs it was. Most of the kids don’t like eggs now. You might have to settle for something simpler on week days and that’s all right. If you don’t know how to cook, find tutorials on You Tube or over at Betty Crocker.
What does he want you to do today? Listen to him. If he says he wants something done, make that a TOP priority.
Do you make his lunch for work? For Christmas a few years ago, I bought my husband a unique and special lunch box. He needs a new one now. I shop especially for his lunch box needs and try to put some perks in frequently. Keep in mind your budget. You might need to make something special, like brownies each week. I used to make them once a week and placed two in a small ziplock bag and froze them. It worked until weight loss became a thought.
Stick a cute love note on a small sticky-note. He will love it because more than likely he is eating with other guys and he will be proud to take your note out. I need to do this again!!
Meet him at the door with a smile when he comes home. AND…try your best NOT to talk about the worst problems of the day right away. I’ve been there, done that. Nothing more to say on that!!
2. What If Those Special Things You Do For Your Husband Backfire?
If your marriage is suffering from ‘After the Honeymoon Syndrome” you may have some rebuilding to do. I did! Oh my, did I!
With a high percentage of marriages failing today, you need to know that you MUST work on your marriage. Always.
Marriages are falling apart after 20 years, or 30 years. Marriages that you would never have thought would fall apart are disintegrating.
Marriage takes an incredible amount of work. Day by day and year by year.
My Mom and Dad are in their 90s and he said that even he has to work on his marriage. I was shocked. I thought after 71 years of marriage it would be a cinch. Not quite so!
It is possible to do something you meant to be special for your husband and he is not pleased with you. Maybe you overcooked that special thing you were cooking. That’s when doing something special for your husband definitely backfires!
3. What is YOUR response?
I thought I had this one down. This past week I found myself responding in my old way that I thought I had grown out of with the Holy Spirit’s help.
I had learned how to walk in the Spirit so much more of the time. But I had been trying to do something special and I just ‘knew’ I was right and my flesh rose up.
Even though I was ‘right’, I was so wrong.
When our flesh rises to the surface because we know we are right, it becomes wrong. Dead wrong.
I realized what was happening inside my heart and went into my bedroom and prayed for strength from the Holy Spirit to walk rightly instead of wrongly.
I want you to also learn to stop and check your spirit when it is more fleshy and wrong. It really doesn’t matter if you were doing something special. If that thing you were doing for some reason turned sour, just go have a talk with Jesus and ask for strength.
Maybe you’ve got this covered and walk in the Spirit more consistently than I do, maybe not. I’d love to hear if this was somehow an encouragement to you today?
Put a Sticky-Note in his lunch box with a love-note!!
This is a great lunch box to fill with a homemade sandwich or scrumptious leftovers, nuts, yogurt, fruit, homemade brownies, or whatever healthy goodies that will let your husband know you care deeply.
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