Searching for Mary when you are a Martha can be a challenge when you know that you need to improve your organization skills.
Do you dream of being much more than you are? Doing more? Being more for your husband and children? We can learn so much from Mary and be more pulled together in all sorts of ways. Being much more. Much, much more!!
Did you make goals just six months ago hoping that this year you would improve all those areas that you are slack in?
- Better eating habits
- Be more faithful in reading God’s Word
- Praying more faithfully
- Keeping the house cleaner
- Tackling that pile of paper clutter
- Spending more time with the kids
- Working out marital kinks
- Working out at least 3 times each week
Once the year gets going it is so easy to forget about goals and challenges that we make at the beginning of the year. No one writes about it half way through the year (okay, I do.)
We all get swept away by our lives and the last thing that is on our mind are the goals on that slip of paper from January. So, we get caught in a circling effect that takes us around and round until we don’t know how to stop the spinning. Whatever it is that we struggle with is nearly impossible to stop.
I’ve been there.
I really do want my house to be clean.
I want that stack of books cleared off the desk.
I want the old homeschool binders in the attic organized (until I figure out what to do with them.)
And I want my little herb garden weeded (for the third time this summer….wait….summer isn’t officially here yet!)
When my children were young, my messes and stacks were higher even though on the surface my home looked organized. Just don’t enter the walk-in closet. Stuff might fall on you!
I am a Martha and I am always busy.
I even have thoughts swirling around in my head thinking that someone else should be helping me.
I am not perfect.
I used to get so stressed.
PMS was NOT my friend.
I wished so much for a Titus Two woman who could come beside me and encourage me and tell me that it was going to be alright.
I was very faithful in sitting at Jesus’ feet with my Bible each morning but I was never able to go through my day with the peace and calm I felt at the beginning of my day.
Stress bombarded me just as soon as I faced my day and my children.
I so wanted to be a Mary.
But I was a Martha.
Where is the balance?
I always wanted to be more loving, forgiving, and obedient instead of the willful, stubborn, and disobedient woman I have been.
We put smiles on our faces when we go out or to church but too often, the real woman is the one struggling when our husband asks us to bring him some water or the kids need just one more thing before going to bed. That is usually the thing that about breaks our will and we no longer desire to be kind and sweet.
Instead, we break.
We so need that Titus Two woman in our lives to encourage us through the years of raising our children.
I didn’t have it easy as two of our adopted children had issues that just about any mother would have difficulty dealing with. I will not share exactly what those things are since they are all grown now.
Just know that I understand YOUR hard because I have lived through something harder than any mother I have ever met. I don’t understand what it is to lose a child to death but I do know that eternal death is something that grieves a mother’s heart deeply.
Dealing with whatever it is that we have on our plate, is what can make being a Mary seem so impossible.
I wanted to be different and maybe you do too?
I wanted to change.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. ~Psalm 51:10~
God does not want to make you different than you are. He wants to take your personality and mold it into who He created you to be.
God might want you to have some of the qualities of Mary although you are still a Martha.
He wants you to learn to walk in the presence of Jesus like Mary while being a Martha.
How to BE in the presence of Jesus like Martha with a heart like Mary:
- Start out my day at the feet of Jesus like Mary first thing each morning.
- Sticky Note reminders or Index Card reminders here and there where you will see them.
- Play worship music on your phone or computer (or whatever it is called now . . . record? tape? CD?)
- Read from a Bible story book to your children.
- Read the Bible to your children after breakfast before they start playing or do/go school.
- Pray as you go through your day for wisdom from the Lord.
When it comes to getting organized, do you think you are more like Mary or Martha?