When it comes to our children, most of us know how unwise it is for them to be glued to a device for hours each day. Even though we realize this, it is difficult to implement limits on our children because of the digital culture of our society today.
The real problem does not lie in the screen time behavior of our children but the limits we place on ourselves as moms.
The issue is not in placing guilt on you as a mom but helping you to see how much your children love, need, and want to have a relationship with you.
It is relatively easy to set guidelines for our children but often not so easy to carry them out. Society in general doesn’t see anything wrong with hours and hours spent on a device and so that creates a type of peer pressure.
You may have opposition from well-meaning relatives and friends if you set guidelines for your children’s screen time.
My phone does so many awesome things. Apps for grocery shopping, a camera app, an app to keep track of my business expenses, a Facebook Private Messenger App, you name it and there is an app for it!
We can save so much time and get so much done on our phone.
Notifications are constantly dinging and calling our name. We have just got to see who or what it is.
Meanwhile we are pulled to our phones for what adds up to be hours each day if we are not careful.
Our children are watching.
That is the real problem.
Limits for Moms
- Whatever limits are good for your children are good for moms
- Do you stop scrolling when your child asks for help?
- Do you read a text when driving? (Worse yet do you text back?)
- Are you on a device while eating with your children?
- Do you check Facebook while taking a walk with your kids?
I have had a cell phone for 21 years. I had one before most moms had them. It wasn’t that we had so much money but because we lived in somewhat rural New York State where I had to drive a half hour to get anywhere I needed to go WITH seven children. There were no telephone booths (remember those?) and no sidewalks to trek with 7 kids for help, should my 15 passenger van break down!!
So, when we took walks in the woods along our little river, would I have been on Facebook if my phone did that? I don’t think so, BUT, it is a HUGE temptation, so I really don’t know!
But Moms Need Grace Too!!
In everything there needs to be grace.
There are times we need to be present with our kids but there are times that our smartphones sure are helpful!!
- What about the mom stuck in a rocker nursing her sleeping baby in the middle of the night? I remember being that mom and in total pain because I hadn’t breastfed in 7 years (some of our kids are adopted). If I had a smartphone, I could have searched remedies for nursing woes.
- What about the mom in labor who is using her clock app to measure the time between contractions? She would only have to reach for her phone and get the timer going!
- What about the techy-savvy mom who is organizing her grocery shopping on an app?
- What about how quick and easy it is to set up a play date for your children and connect with other moms?
We don’t want to throw out the baby with the bath water, but we want to use our phones wisely without having regrets later.
Sweet moms, you can limit your time on your device while you are spending time with your children.
You can look at them when you talk with them or they ask you a question.
Take that walk and keep your phone in your pocket, ready in case of emergency.
BE with your children and love on them because they grow up too fast. You don’t want to look back with regrets.
So, use your phone to its limit (I think my smartphone is almost limitless) but with boundaries filled with wisdom.
Take the time to raise your children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
That is something that you will never regret!!
Do you place limits on how much time your kids spend on a device? Do they balk at those boundaries? How can you balance your own time on a device so you can set a good example for them?
Welcome to WholeHearted Wednesday #193
WOW! It’s Wednesday again! Welcome to our WholeHearted Wednesday Linkup for bloggers!
First I wanted to share one of the posts from last week’s linkup party that I enjoyed. Did you ever want to take a peek into someone’s homeschool journey? This would be fun to do whether you homeschool or not. Kelly from Raising Samuels drops by each week to share her blogging journey with our community here at WholeHearted Home. I know she’d love you to stop over and leave her a good dose of encouragement!!
Now let’s link-up!!
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