Creating an inviting warmth by romancing your bedroom just might make your marriage sizzling hot. Stashing ‘homeless’ items in your bedroom won’t produce a restful atmosphere.
It is way too easy to stash anything that doesn’t belong in your bedroom. Isn’t that sort of what your bedroom is for? Your home may not be an adequate size to comfortably fit all the belongings and children you cherish. You don’t have to move to gain more square footage but just learn to organize, declutter, and be original in how you decorate your bedroom.
Pinterest is a wonderful place to find ideas to romance-up your bedroom but BE CAREFUL!! You will find lovely fourposter beds with matching dressers and night-stands, love seats, hope chests, draperies, amazing windows, with glamour that is unthinkable with your budget (and mine) but beware since often, they are linked to companies selling expensive furniture and accessories. Tempting.
Think, what do I have in my hands.
Then, go for it!!
First things first:
- Spend a week decluttering your room (if need be). Get 3 white kitchen garbage bags (unless you need the large black ones?) and place them each in a different box. Label each box for (1) donations (2) put away/storage (3) and throw away. Remove every. single. thing. that doesn’t belong in your room that mysteriously found its way there. Lighten up all the flat surfaces of your room, like dresser tops, night table tops, hope chest surface, floor (that is a flat surface), and then don’t forget to remove all the junk under your bed and either store it in the attic (shed, garage, if you have storage somewhere) and only put back under your bed things that are organized in bins. So. Then. GUARD your bedroom door and don’t let any. more. stashing. happen. It isn’t a good plan!!
- Mastermind your romancing makeover. You might be thrilled with how your bedroom looks and just need to add some romantic touches like love notes or silk flowers to the dresser or night stand. If this is inspiring you to totally makeover your bedroom or add some touches of flare, then visit Pinterest (I know, I just gave the warning flag) and you just might be inspired with some tips. Your bed is in a central eye catching place in your room. You might not even have a headboard and that is just fine. We didn’t for years after we were first married. Our bed was on the floor. I used a quilt for a smaller bed and made it up to just reach the wall and come down to the floor on the opposite side. So, be creative. Then, find an idea for the wall above your bed. I found a magazine (sadly Pinterest hadn’t been invented) with a picture of 3 wicker fans. I was able to find the exact fans, and today, they still romance our bedroom.
- Don’t forget to romance your closet. This probably can’t be done in a day, nor a week or month. To tell you the truth if you’ve recently moved (like within the last 6 years) or have lived in a home for 20 years) you just might find this to be an ongoing project unless you have the cash-flow and idea-flow to implement all at once. It has taken me 6 years to work on my closet and it is nearly ‘there’ unless I start decluttering (my closet is ‘the’ place to store donation bags) and ‘moves’ to the attic. So, work on it but have mercy on yourself. This is not a post about perfection!! I have gradually accumulated some square wicker baskets that sit perfectly on the width of the shelves in our closet. I purchased hangers that are all the same (just plastic ones not the expensive wooden ones) and that works so long as other colors don’t stray to my closet. It allows the clothes to sit evenly and neatly. Somewhat. I moved to the attic or back to other places in the house, things that didn’t belong. Funny how that keeps happening. I’d love to have one of those Pinterestingly neat closets but I have to remember that it IS a closet!!
- Coordinate!! Try to coordinate the colors in your room. Whether you like the bright colors in style today or you are stuck in a rut (like me) and love the country cottage style, I still cannot stress enough how much it brings a room together to have things match. Or mismatched in a matched kind of way. There is a way that stripes and florals can go together seemlessly. Don’t bust your budget on this one. There’s a ways to add flourish without spending much or any money.
- Adding color. Painting a headboard blue, hanging a quilt or blanket over it, or even hanging it on the wall when there is no headboard adds color to the room. This is especially true since the bed is the central theme of the room. If you don’t have expensive furniture, they are not antiques that you value, you can paint them blue, yellow, or whatever to highlight your color scheme. Paint the night stands or the dressers or all of them to bring color and newness to your bedroom. I wouldn’t DARE do this since I have 100 + year old dressers from my husband’s grandmother.
Now, how is this romancing your bedroom??
I don’t really care if you are 23 and just married or 60 something and married for eons. When you enter the bedroom the atmosphere ought to be inviting to stimulate an atmosphere that draws you to the heart of your beloved. Even if your marriage isn’t all that you ever dreamed it to be, you should constantly be doing something to make it the best ever possible. That’s life. Life is mundane and often boring. What can you do to spice it up and tantalize and make it sizzling hot for your hubby?
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