I always felt alone through the rough roads of marriage. Alone. The only one. Christian women are taught to never speak negatively about their husband and they should not. There are discreet ways to share about your bumpy issues with marital bliss and ways that an older women can point younger women to Jesus.
Should you share your marital troubles with women who are your peers?
Close friendships should be chosen carefully and confidences never should be ones where you encourage each other to be negative or cutting about your spouses. Discretion is always best for each situation. Be careful.
The Lord blessed me over ten years ago, to have two friends who always took my problems and difficulties and showed me how “I” could change. The issues were never faced from the perspective of what my husband could do to change. Only me. I always appreciated these dear friends. Unfortunately they were about my age as the older, Titus 2 woman was non-existent. Sometimes you have to become a Titus 2 woman because she is out working and not at home nor vailable.
What I appreciated about these two friends was their ability to humbly come along-side me when I was going through troubled waters, encouraging me and letting me know that I was not the only one. They let me know that my ‘marital bliss’ was common, that I was not alone. Somehow this made it all more manageable as I thought that I was disfunctionally abnormal.
What I want you, my sweet friend to know, is that you are also not alone. I don’t know if I totally agree with a younger women never sharing any of her difficulties with an older woman or a spiritually more mature friend. How else can her questions have answers? How else can she grow stronger in the Lord as a godly woman?
Jesus confronted people directly where their personal issues were by coming along-side them with comfort and love. There is nothing that has been more difficult for me than to have that feeling where I am walking alone.
How to Point a Younger Woman to Jesus
You may be older by only a year or two. You may be in your twenties. Maybe you are older than the one you’re providing marital discipleship to. There are some guidelines that I have followed through the years that have steered me clear of trouble with women I guided in the homeschool support group I ran.
Direct conversation and solutions back to the woman.
Listen as she pours out her heart without judging her for attitudes and misjudments.
As you disciple her you can guide her and help her to correct her wrong and negative thinking.
Don’t be afraid to open up your Bible with her and pray with her.
Be willing to help her with her children or go to her home to help.
There are many things that I used to do as an encouragement to other women before we moved. I have a burden for women in our very little community but once the tiny grocery store closed it became harder to connect with women. I have connected with a few neighbors but not to the extent that I would like. I pray that I will be able to disciple just one woman from my town.
When I was 33, I looked around and could not find a Titus Two woman and decided to become that woman. I have had many pitfalls, bumps, and failures as I have traveled my road that has but hopefully God can use me although I am pretty much a broken vessel – totally for His glory.
Has God brought another woman into your life to disciple and encourage? I don’t care if you are a newly married 18 year old or 60+, you will grow by reaching out to another woman.
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