Adoption is a serious step and one to be made prayerfully before God. It is a sober decision and one that I hope will bring blessings to many families.
Have you read stories on various blogs about adoption? Have you noticed a blogger or two (or three) who have one or more adopted children? Do you know an adopted child or adult? Has that given you goosebumps? Made you think of the possibility of asking your husband about adoption?
Adoption is a commitment for the lifetime of a child. It is for more than eighteen years. Your involvement and concern for your child whether biological or adopted is for the duration of your life and theirs. It is not just that cute baby that you yearn for but the toddler, pre-teen, teenager, and adult the child will become.
Your relationship with the child you adopt reaches into the future of the combined lives of you and the child.
With that in mind, this is a very important decision you are making (or have made) that reaches farther than the now.
When we want something very badly, we can easily neglect seeking God’s will in the matter; or we will only seek out counsel that agrees with what we desire.
In seeking to adopt a child, I cannot emphasize how important it is to BE SURE that this choice is the will of God.
Parenting is Not Perfect
God chooses the father and mother who will raise a child regardless of the circumstances in the home. He chooses all the factors and circumstances that surround each child’s life.
I hope what I share will help you if you are considering adoption and that you will find encouragement if you are raising a child you have already adopted.
None of us are perfect parents, nor ever will be. I have found through parenting how God has worked in my life to transform me into His image more and more as my life progresses. I think that is one of the primary reasons for my becoming a parent.
Biblical Examples of Adoption:
Since ancient history, there has been some form of care provided for children whose parents were deceased or unable to care for them. Here are several examples from the Bible of children who received care from someone other than their biological parents.
- Amram and Jochebed were the biological parents of Moses. They brought Moses into the world and gave him his early training. They were ‘good’ parents. I’m sure it would have been emotionally difficult for Jochebed to give her son up. On the other hand, she was absolutely surrendered to the will of God and was able to have her daughter Marion place him in a reed basket within the bull rushes. She trusted God. She could have allowed her emotions to give way to fear, thinking there was no possible way for Moses to be raised by Pharoah’s daughter in the palace and turn out to love God with all of his heart. This is a wonderful example of adoption. “Moses was learned in all the wisdom of the Egyptians, and was mighty in words and in deeds.” ~Acts 7:22~
- Elkanah and Hannah were the biological parents of Samuel. This is another example where a child is mostly raised by someone else rather than his parents. It amazes me in both Moses and Samuel how the short influence of his biological parents was so strong that they both followed God as young people and adults. There are too many examples where even children growing up in Christian homes are forsaking their godly upbringing even after being exposed to the Lord for 18 or more years. It just emphasizes how we all have a free will to make our own choice regardless of how godly or not our parents are.” . . . minister unto the LORD before Eli the priest” ~I Samuel 2:11~
- Hagar had Ismael through Abraham. Sarah was not able to have a child (yet) and gave her husband her servant, Hagar to have a child for her. Sounds crazy? Well, it was! The consequences of this story play out throughout history even to this day.
We all have generational sin that passes down to us from those who lived in our line before us. We can break this chain of sin through the blood of Jesus Christ in our life and have victory. Nevertheless, this is something that I never realized the power and draw that is present in someone’s life until time and events played out in my life to demonstrate this.
When an individual is being pulled by these forces, no counsel or encouragement will work against the evil influencing their life without that child allowing the power of Christ to reign in their hearts and give victory. The desires of the child’s heart are enough to give that pull the power to influence them.
Though the examples above, to me, aren’t exactly examples of adopted children, you can definitely see the similarity. You can see how some children can grow up being faithful to God though they only lived with their parents a few years. Conversely, if a child is from an ungodly mother, as many children from overseas adoptions or our system of foster care/adoptions within the U.S., they sometimes follow the biological parents influence although they were primarily raised with godly parents faithful in teaching them the things of God.
Like the story of Hagar and Ismael, your child can have an ungodly influence for many generations to come. This story is a sad story but an example to keep in mind. Generational sin does not have to rein but the fact remains that it often does. I cannot stress enough how victory is possible through Christ’s death on the cross, but that is not because of the parent’s decision but has to be because of the child’s.
If you are considering adoption, study the examples that I briefly shared from the Bible. Pay close attention to the things I shared about generational sin being so strong in the child’s life even though the biological parent(s) might not have been a strong influence in their life.
Adoption is not for everyone, so carefully and prayerfully seek God in this matter. Generational influences are strong in adopted children and must be taken seriously.
I am so blessed when I hear about someone who was adopted and grew up to love the Lord Jesus Christ with all of their heart. That is so encouraging to my heart.
If you are saved, you are adopted into the family of God but the majority of people who have walked this earth have refused to make this choice.
Do you have a friend who was adopted? Or do you know someone who has adopted? Would you like to adopt a child or sibling group? Do you have an adopted child?