“Except the LORD build the house, they labor in vain that build it.” ~Psalm 127:1~
If you were planning to move to a house that you were either building yourself or having a contractor build for you, you would find that the foundation to be the single most important part of the house. When our children were little, we were planning to move into a factory-built bi-level that was hoisted by a crane and placed on the concrete foundation.
Simple? Not so!
We had two toddlers at the time and we (or I) had to drive out to the construction site almost daily to be sure things were done correctly. In case you are wondering if this was crazy of us, that company went out of business as soon as the houses in our development were almost complete and had some small claims court proceedings in order to complete necessary tasks. Like the septic systems for four houses. One was ours. Very needed!!
Houses have blueprints or plans for every detail involved in the process of building. Our home was one of those houses you see on a ‘wide load’ being pulled on a trailer down the highway. Just half the house on one trailer and the other half on another. The foundation MUST exactly FIT the house when it is eased onto the foundation.
I often drove out with my toddlers while my husband was working. One day, I came out when they were about to start pouring the foundation. They had the driveway for the garage on the WRONG side of the house!! That would put the step going to the front door in the WRONG place!! Remember, the house is pre-fab and would come and NOT fit!
A neighbor down the road actually had the house come and put on their foundation. The cement stairs were in the WRONG place!!
God is our Master Builder for your marriage and family. Aren’t you glad that He makes no mistakes?!
He has a blueprint for your marriage that is simply perfect. Everything fits just right, so long as you trust Him with the building project. When you get involved and try to do it your way, that is when you pour the cement and your stairs end up in the wrong place and you end up against the wall instead of entering at the door.
When you (or I for that matter) try to build our own marriages and families, we end up like the fly-by-night-contractor that promised the moon but delivered poorly put-together homes. In our neighborhood, we all spent several years ironing out the kinks until we all had the nice homes we originally hoped for.
The building process takes so much longer when we ‘do it our way’ and have to backtrack to return to God’s plan.
Here are just 3 things that will strengthen the foundation of your marriage:
- Commitment- for the long haul.
- Conflict: working out your differences God’s way (with forgiveness)
- Communication: speaking graciously to each other ~ “He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the king shall be his friend.” ~Proverbs 15:1~
More Time? If you have more time, read Psalm 127:1-5.
What is the foundation of your marriage and family? Why do you think God cares about your marriage? Let’s connect. Let me know in the comments.