Motherhood is often thought to be a thankless job at least until your child has children that are teenagers. It is at that point that you might realize all that your mom went through in raising you.
Sometimes by the time we are old enough to need our mom really badly, she is no longer living and it is too late to tell her thank you. If this is what has happened to you, there is still plenty of room to be thankful for all that your mom means to you and taught you while you were growing up.
I know it isn’t Mother’s Day, so this might seem like poor timing to be writing about our moms.
This week was my Mom’s birthday, so for me, it is a time when I have been thinking continuously of all that a mom means and about the treasure that my mom has been and still is to me.
When we are growing up, it seems like our Mom is always there. We take her for granite. Yes, she is rock solid. Always there for us!
It’s my mom’s 95th birthday and to me, that is so important to have reached that milestone. I can still call her and have a coherent conversation with her.
She might forget a thing or two but I am sure I forget much more than her!
I could tell you about all my memories with my mom from my weekly visits to a Chinese refugee village of shacks where the only access was to drive on this treacherously curvy mountain road. Then there was the times when I remember going shopping with her at the mall when we lived in Honolulu.
But what I would like to do is turn your heart to thankfulness for your mom.
Even if you are in a season when your relationship is strained, it is good for your heart to practice thankfulness for all that your mom means to you.
1. Her love is unending.
Even when you are going through a season where you are not showing love for your mom, she has unending love for you.
2. Her love demonstrated God’s love to the best of her ability.
Sometimes you might have been like “The little girl with the curl, right in the middle of her forehead. When she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was horrid!!” Yet your mom pointed you to Christ. Even moms who do not know Jesus do that instinctively, demonstrating love that is very much like Christ.
3. She taught you the most important things in life.
Your mom wanted the best for you and would often talk about things that would prepare you to be a responsible adult. OK so many of those times you had just been really difficult and you got a lecture from her. If you had been really listening, you would have heard the most loving directional advice ever!!
4. She was there to care for you when you were sicker than sick.
I remember getting asthma when I was around 4 or 5 and she would prop pillows behind me so I could breathe easier. She would sing to me in the wicker rocker, or just be there in the next room, ready to come as soon as I needed her.
5. She listened when I talked her ear off.
Who listened to my mom when she had too much on her plate? I don’t know. What I do know is that she would listen to me even when I went on and on and on about insignificant facts to everybody but me. She made me think it was all very important.
6. She would retell about my escapades with pride.
She took my side when the teacher called her in to report how badly I was doing in school. She took my side since she knew how hard I had been working. She retold that story without ever sharing how ‘dumb’ or ‘slow’ I was academically. When I dove off the high-dive within a month of running through the glass door, she retold my story with pride for years after.
7. She never picked up my room but taught me to pick it up myself.
She could have tired of teaching me to be tidy but took the harder route and insisted on my bed being made and room picked up. She knew better than to pick up after me!
8. She made sure I had everything I needed (but not necessarily everything I wanted.)
I never remember that we were ever short on money but on retrospect I know that we sometimes were. After all, my parents were missionaries. I had everything that I needed and many things that I wanted.
9. Mom put God as her first priority.
She could have put me as her first priority but that was not where my parents’ values were. Instead, I always saw how God was first and the other things fell into their rightful place. Mom demonstrated that God was first in her life through making sure that her children were fed before she ate.
10. She role modeled Christ in everything she did and said.
If a mom puts herself first, she will not demonstrate Christ first. She will only demonstrate selfishness. My mom put my needs before her own and through that I learned how much Jesus loved me!!
I have not always thanked my mom but with my mom turning 95 this week, it makes me realize that she might not always be around to thank. Thank your mom for all that she means to you and if she is no longer with you, thank another mom who has maybe not been told what an awesome job she is doing for her children.
What has your mom meant to you through the years? It would be nice if you shared about her in the comments.
My Mom, Evelyn Bollback, April 2016. She is now 95!! Happy Birthday!!